FEEL LIKE YOU WANT TO DIE? WANT TO FEEL OK?
If you were raped
rather than molested skip down until you read:
"SURVIVOR, WANT TO FEEL
OK AGAIN?"
If you're not sure but you feel that something's very wrong see below.
Molested
see next. "I am getting more memories back after following the book's advice. I feel like I am just coming out of my personal dark ages. I read the book cover to cover last night. I couldn't put it down! Sharing the experiences with my therapist gave me a peaceful feeling!" Dee said after doing
the writing exercises. The book is at your book stores or in the library. Men, for
reference, switch genders.
The Courage to Heal A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
by Ellen Bass and Laura
Davis
If you
don't understand what's wrong, but you definitly know something's amiss read these molestation symptoms. You
may not have all, but you have many of these character traits: Self-esteem
zero, insecurity, drug, alcohol abuse, promiscuous sex, prostitution, analism
for neatness, excessive activity, want control, have explosive rage,
violence. Imaturity with language
or actions, panic attacks, seperation of sex and emotion, memory lapses, don't
like to sleep in the same bed as mate, don't like to be touched, always cold...
Answers
for behaviors are
underlined. Not all may apply to
you.
1
Self-esteem zero. Molesters lie
and say it was your fault, or others say you were old enough to stop it. That's ridiculous! You were just a kid! Nobody ever taught you about this!
Don't
listen to negative advice, don't argue, just get away! You're never going to change
their
minds, so just ignore them & get far away!
2
You have guilt pangs, & , apoligize too much!
The
molester blamed you for the molestation. You believed, so feel like shit
IT WAS THE ASSHOLE MOLESTER'S FAULT!
It's never the child's
fault! YOU WERE JUST A KID!
IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT! NOT YOUR FAULT!
NOT YOUR FAULT!
IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT! NOT YOUR FAULT!
NOT YOUR FAULT!
3 You're very flighty, jumping into many
things as you encounter them daily.
You don't concentrate on what's important. You lose focus instantly.
4 You don't trust very much.
Trust is a big
problem amongst molested. You
trusted your molester.
5 You don't like your partner crowding
you on the bed.
Don't like to be touched?
You may not sure why, but your psyche
remembers. It's reminded of
being molested.
6
You have irrational fears. Panic attacks.
Every noise meant your
molester could be returning. SO
YOU FEARED EVERYTHING! THAT REMAINS IN YOUR MIND. It is buried deep so
causes confusion and panic attacks.
Doctors and drug companies want to medicate
symptoms for
their profit!
7 Confused sexually, you had homosexual
relationships too.
IT WAS THE ASSHOLE MOLESTER'S
FAULT!
8
Normal women sleep with about 20 men by
their mid 30's.
MOLESTATION victims,
often many more. "Make me
your slut!" often advertised in sex mags. Many sleep with 10's of thousands.
IT'S THE ASSHOLE MOLESTER'S FAULT!
9 Set impossible goals for
yourself.
10 Constant stress.
11 Thoughts of suicide.
12 Anxious if alone?
13 Can never
seem to see most things to successful conclusion.
14 Make
excuses for every failure.
15 Are a
ridiculous business partner.
Rarely listen to sound advice.
Would rather maintain "control" and do it, "My way."
All
are profile traits for
AMNESIAC MOLESTATION VICTIMS.
THEY ARE ALL THE ASSHOLE MOLESTER'S FAULT.
Normal people don't exhibit
the above symptoms. You exhibit
10-13? You are in denial. 60% have amnesia
about this, so will
firmly deny.
If
you think there's any possibility you may be a victim, then you were!
Follow,
"THERAPIST CHOICE" table
of contents, or get shit!!!!!!!
Treatment from the front pages of the phone book, from $15/mo.
Forgive
yourself. It was not your
fault! Don't just cry about
it, or WHAT REMAINS SHIT IS YOUR FAULT!
When
you stop being horrified, follow these instructions to get peace. Victims were amazed
by the help they got from this
book.
The Courage to Heal A Guide for Women Survivors
of Child Sexual Abuse
by Ellen Bass and Laura
Davis
The
book is at your book stores or in the library. Men, merely exchange genders of the book.
Pay
special attention to being comfortable with the therapist, and avoiding total
dependence on them. Be careful of
long term therapy aimed at your wallet!.
Therapy
should have you feeling better in the world, not just in office! If not, consider
switching
therapists. Don't ask the one
you're unhappy with for their opinion.
Abusive therapists will merely lie to get your money!
GUILT
SUCKS, IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!!
REMEMBER, HELPING OTHERS HELPS YOU? DO IT! OK?
The
following material reprinted from:
The Courage
to Heal A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
by
Ellen Bass and Laura Davis
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0060950668/102-0678543-2929758?vi=glance
Children
do not generally say, "My brother molested me six times," but in
their own way, all children "tell" that they've been abused. They tell in vague terms"
"I
don't like Mr. Johnson, or "I don't want to go to Boyscouts any
more." For a child,
"Don't make me go to Poppa's house any more." is a very clear
message.
If
children don't tell in words, they often tell through behavior. They wet their beds. They steal from a parent's wallet. They are terrified
to go to sleep, and
wake up screaming from nightmares.
They regress to babyish behavior.
They don't want to be left alone.
They develop asthma. They
have trouble in school, they stop eating.
They cry hysterically everytime a particular babysitter comes over. They develop
a precocious interest in
sex. They act seductively to get
things they want.
Sometimes
older children or teens act out by disobeying or get into trouble with
athorities. They become depressed,
take drugs, or engage in self-destructive behavior LIKE HITTING THEMSELVES OR
STICKING THEMSELVES WITH PINS!
If
this is not treated properly, they very often become amnesiac about the
trauma. It ruins their adult lives
and they never know why!
They are
trying to get someone to pay attention, but their behavior's usually
misinterpreted. End of excerpt.
SURVIVOR, WANT TO FEEL OK AGAIN?
if you read this entire article you'll know how. It will change your life at once! Read about a 16 year old's
refusal, then later, acceptance of therapy. The testimony is followed by another rape victim's comments. (Got Happy!)
GENTLE WAR: hello Chris
GENTLE WAR: HRU?
Chris: hey...alright
u?
GENTLE WAR: GREAT AS ALWAYS!
GENTLE WAR: org's starting 2 grow
GENTLE WAR: HRU doin'w/ur
therapy?
Chris: cool
GENTLE WAR: U seem better
Chris: thanks
GENTLE WAR: it's
amazing how different ur
Chris: thats cool
GENTLE WAR: u had an explosive temper b4
Chris:
if u say so
GENTLE WAR: all victims do
GENTLE WAR: now ur all nice!
GENTLE WAR: I love u
Crystal!
GENTLE WAR: Feel happier?
Chris: yeah
GENTLE WAR: GREAT!
GENTLE WAR:
THIS WILL BE IN THE BOOK TO HELP OTHERS TOO, K?
Chris: ok
GENTLE WAR: PEOPLE WILL C THAT U GOT HAPPIER
N THINK... ME TOO? U WILL B AN INSPIRATION!
Gentlewar678: you know
how I got chris 2 get therapy?
Got Happy!: how
Gentlewar678: told her, you got raped once. ur allowing
it 2 screw u up
Gentlewar678: lesbians get raped for years! Have females, trust no one, especially brothers. most
lesbians with brothers were raped by them! (They were raped by fathers & visitors too)
Got Happy!: wow
Gentlewar678:
I told Chris, "A woman in NYC got raped by 25 men"
Gentlewar678: ur letting ur rape to screw u up for something
relatively minor don't u think?
Gentlewar678: she took my advice for a therapist that very day, and was seen 3
days later (Follow, therapist choice or get S***!)
Got Happy!: thats great
Gentlewar678: she thought
so too
Got Happy!: well dear i hate to cut this short but i need to get to bed
Got Happy!: have to go
to work tomorrow
Got Happy!: 600am comes early
Gentlewar678: sure, k if i ask?
Got Happy!:
it was delightful meeting you and talking with you today
Got Happy!: sure ask me
Gentlewar678: we never
met
Gentlewar678: almost...
Got Happy!: online
Gentlewar678: i no
Gentlewar678:
therapy?
Got Happy!: what about therapy?
Gentlewar678: did u get iit?
Got Happy!: actually
i did like 14 years ago
Gentlewar678: pause...
Gentlewar678: good
Got Happy!: i went through
a really rough time in my life and it was actually the best thing i ever went through
Got Happy!: it has stayed
with me and has helped me get through many things in life
Gentlewar678: great!
Got Happy!: i learned
one thing too...i am ok
Gentlewar678: Can I use ur endorsement as well as Chris's?
Gentlewar678: wonderful!
Got Happy!: and i learned to believe in myself and to quit listening to others
Gentlewar678: it will
help many
Got Happy!: sure you can
Gentlewar678: yes
Gentlewar678: it is the way
Gentlewar678:
g'nite!
Got Happy!: goodnight
Now go back to the top
of the page and click on the link.
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