The following material reprinted from:
The Courage to Heal
A Guide for Women Survivors of
Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis
To read inside the book,
click on the link below.
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0060950668/102-0678543-2929758?vi=glance
Children do not generally say, “My brother molested me six times,” but in
their own way, all children “tell” that they’ve been abused. They tell in vague terms” “I don’t
like Mr. Johnson, or “I don’t want to go to Boyscouts any more.” For a child, “Don’t make me
go to Poppa’s house any more.” is a very clear message.
If children don’t tell in words, they often tell through behavior. They wet their beds. They steal from a parent’s
wallet. They are terrified to go to sleep, and wake up screaming from nightmares. They regress to babyish behavior. They
don’t want to be left alone. They develop asthma. They have trouble in school, they stop eating. They cry hysterically
everytime a particular babysitter comes over. They develop a precocious interest in sex. They act seductively to get things
they want.
Sometimes older children or teens act out by disobeying or get into trouble with athorities. They become depressed, take
drugs, or engage in self-destructive behavior LIKE HITTING THEMSELVES OR STICKING THEMSELVES WITH PINS!
If this is not treated properly, they very often become amnesiac about the trauma. It ruins their adult lives and they never
know why!
They are trying to get someone to pay attention, but their behavior’s usually misinter-preted. End of excerpt.
“I am getting more memories back after following the book’s advice. I feel like I am just coming out
of my personal dark ages. Sharing the experiences with my therapist gave me a peaceful feeling!” Dee
said after doing the writing exercises. The book is at your book stores or in the library. Men, for reference, switch genders.
Love yourself, it was
NOT YOUR FAULT!
DON'T LISTEN TO SMUCKS THAT SAY IT WAS!
IT WAS THE ASSHOLE
MOLESTER’S
FAULT!
AS A CHILD, IT WAS,
NOT YOUR FAULT!
NOT YOUR FAULT!
IT WAS THE MOLESTER’S FAULT!
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