CHILD ACTS STRANGE?
Is your child very moody, doesn’t laugh, or doesn't like to be touched? Do they sit and stare blankly? Be very concerned,
you are about to be tested.
If they are ill at ease amongst almost all but you, be very suspicious! Lack of trust is a sure sign that something is very
wrong in their lives.
Good parents deal with a threat to their child's life. Bad parents look away and ignore telling signs.
If kids show dislike for any person, be it your husband, baby-sitter, family member or associate, male or female,
THEY ARE SHOWING YOU MOLESTERS!
They don’t know how to tell you!
IF YOUR CHILD EXHIBITS THESE SYMPTOMS,
THEY ARE SECRETLY BEING MOLESTED!
Calm yourself. Your
child needs you desperately now. Be calm, speak reassuringly that you have things under control now. Don't confront the
molester in front of the child.
Do not blame yourself. Molesters are very sneaky, and use threats or lies to keep
their victim silent. Usually threats cause the child to be silent in an attempt to protect you or the family.
Our policy is to believe children. We would much rather apologize
to an adult for being wrong about them than to ever have to apologize to a child for not protecting them.
What can you do if you suspect sexual abuse?
Keep calm - It is important to remember that you are not angry with the child, but at what
happened. Children can mistakenly interpret anger or disgust as directed towards them.
Believe
the child - In most circumstances, children do not lie about sexual abuse.
Give positive messages
- Such as "I knew you could not help it." or "I proud of you for telling."
Explain - to the child that he or she is not blame for what happened.
Listen
to and answer the child's questions honestly.
Respect the child's privacy. Be careful not
to discuss the abuse in front of people who do not need to know what happened.
Be responsible
- Report the incident to the Department of Human Services. They can help to protect the child's safety and provide resources
for further help.
Arrange a medical exam, it can reassure that there has not been any permanent
physical damage and may verify important evidence.
Get help - Get competent professional counseling,
even if it is only for a short time.
Call the sexual assault crisis center nearest you.
Don't
Panic or overreact when the child talks about the experience. Children need
help and support to make it through this difficult time.
Pressure the child to talk or avoid
talking about the abuse. Allow the child to talk at his or her own pace. Forcing information can be harmful. Silencing
the child will not him or her to forget.
Confront the offender in the child's presence. Distress may be
harmful. This is a job for the authorities.
Blame the child. SEXUAL ABUSE IS NEVER THE
CHILD'S FAULT.
* All information presented here is property of the Sexual Assault Crisis Center of Knoxville, TN.
Much more at the site. There
isn’t enough praise to thank them. Their wonderful materials are available to you at the url below to give you and
your children aide.
From: http://www.stopsexualabuse.com/toreport.htm
http://www.thesacc.org/
One of only 8 freestanding units in Tennesee' url is above.
From: http://srv2.ainet.com/parentsunited/parent.html
Parents United of Stanislaus County, Inc.
For 24 hour support call: National Sexual Assault
Hotline
1.800.656.HOPE (4673)
Go to the police sex crimes unit and turn
the molester in at once. Take emergency leave of abscence from work, by pleading "emergency." Trust no one alone with your
child.
Follow "Therapist Choice" link below, very carefully. Therapy is a very dangerous field. Molesters
abound.
